So what happened to the days of lovey-dovey?

He doesn't call you as often as he used to does he? No.

Maybe he doesn't even call you anymore.

Now he prefers the company of others because you seem like a broken record to him and when you try to enquire why he stays out late, he feigns anger claiming his an adult and can live his life as he pleases.


When you chat him up, unlike before, it takes 2 days to reply your message.


He has suddenly become a stranger because he rarely spends time with you.

He always claims to be busy like all the time he was chasing you around town back then, he wasn't employed.

His job is now of more importance.

Funny enough he acts so nicely to other ladies and female friends but forgets how to smile when he sees you.

Everyone you try to confide in tells you, "He may be going through a rough time, hold on to your man, men are scare!"

When you try to reach out to him to know what's wrong he complains that you're probing too much and should give him some space.

He has gone as far as abusing you verbally, emotionally, psychologically and has threatened to go physical if you don't let him be.

This is seriously getting you worked up and you are gradually losing it.

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My Darling Sister, listen to me, you are very important to me and your sanity is necessary for your existence.

Let me tell you what no one else will tell you, any man that treats you this way does not deserve you!

Please take your focus off him because he is not the source of your joy or happiness.

Your happiness lies in your hands and you alone can determine how you feel.

Get on your feet, dry your tears and decide to be happy.

No man is worth the aggravation.

Two things you must do to unlove a man:
1. Fall in love with you.
2. Keep yourself busy with things that make you happy!

Do you agree?

Please feel free to share your thoughts and yes, there's more.

Drop your comments if you want more.

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  1. Sadly, this seems to be my story. When you put out issues, they say you're nagging. "My battery was low and I was very busy" has become the constant excuse for not calling.

    But really though, what happened to all the mushy mushy stuff we started out with?

    1. My dear, I can totally relate. That's why you need to unlove him ASAP. If he really needs you in his life, he'll reach out to you. But first, you must love YOU!
      Remember The Tory Teller loves you too!

    2. The truth is a lot of ladies find it difficult to unlove. They begin to feel it's their fault instead. Know this, you're a Queen so if you see someone treating you like a worthless peasant, Throw your crown Back on your head,show him the way right out of your Queendom, sit right back on your throne and get busy reminding yourself of who you are. Get busy with the self love till someone who loves you better comes around.

    3. Absolutely right Kaycee. I wish every lady will know this fact and put it into practice. There will definitely be less unhappy and depressed females. And the male folks will learn to appreciate and love them genuinely undauntedly.

  2. Hmmm! What will I do without Tory_Teller in life?
    Hard fact, you've said the truth many will chose not to say especially putting it out here.
    Thank you

    1. Thanks my Darling sis. I'm glad you agree with me. You know I don't mince words when it comes to such issues. That's why I'm here too.

  3. I wonder why someone will go through the trouble of pursuing you, only to not want you? 🤦‍♀️ also thank you for speaking truth.. Your the best.

    1. My dear, I haven't found the reason for that.
      It doesn't just make sense that you woo someone when you don't want to be with them.
      Many have bastardized the word love, too bad.
      Thank you for stopping by.


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