RELATIONSHIPS: My mother-in-law and I

Hey Fabulous People!

I know I should say Happy New Month to y'all since this is our first post for November. I promise I haven't abandoned you. Not at all. Life has just been happening to me in ways I least expected and I will definitely share with y'all what I have been up to as soon as I can.

So last Sunday, I wore my mother-in-law's cloth to church and my Anambra man couldn’t help but confess how much it reminded him of his mum. It's actually been 6 years since she passed and we still do miss her.

Okay, let me tell you a little about Madame Rose Udeh.

She was a typical African, or should I say South-Eastern Nigerian, mum. Mothers do not joke with their first son especially if he is the only son which happens to be the case with my hubby. (They usually refer to them as Ofu mkpuru anya'm ji afu uzo, meaning the only eye I use to see.) I recall I have once shared how much importance is attached to having a male child among the Igbos of South Eastern Nigeria. You can read that up here. Well, my Anambra man is no exception.

My mother-in-law was a kind, gentle, godfearing woman who loved her family so much that she did all she could to ensure that her kids get the best of life. Need I add that she was very fair in complexion and earned the name Gold from her youthful days. You can now guess where my son, Sammy, got his fair skin from.

After my mother-in-law passed on, I received this lovely outfit in the picture below from my sister-in-law. She didn't mind sharing her mum's clothes with me, and I was pleased to have something that reminded me of the woman who took me in and taught me a little more about being an Anambra wife. The cloth was originally a blouse with 2 wrappers, as worn by the Igbos but I am not a Mama, that ties 2 wrappers. Don't forget yours truly is a 16-year-old baby girl. Lolz.

Well, I usually tie 2 wrappers on very special occasions which is quite rare. So I decided to use the other wrapper to make this lovely dress for my daughter, and so we twinned to church. Surprisingly, somebody stopped me and asked if she was my sister. I laughed my heart out because I just couldn't wrap my head around the fact that the little Presh, I carried some years ago had grown up so much to be mistaken for my sister. Anyway, that's what you get when you start having kids early.

I have heard a couple of people say that they would never put on a cloth that belonged to someone who has passed on. Not too long ago, I wasn't sure if I could but based on the relationship I had with my mother-in-law, I didn't see anything wrong in wearing her clothes. She really did have an impressive fashion sense if you ask me. So let me know in the comment section, can you wear the clothes of a loved one who has passed on? And what do you think is the major cause of the rift between women and their daughters-in-law? I'll really love to hear your thoughts about these issues.

Lastly, your favourite Tory Teller's Blog was nominated for the Afro bloggers award under the category of Expressive! Do well to vote for me by clicking Afro Bloggers Award, scroll down to the Expressive category, select Tory Teller's Blog and vote. Thank you in advance!

Don't worry, the next post on Tory Teller's Blog will not take so long, I promise. Until then remember I love you and I am rooting for you!






© Onyinye Udeh


  1. When someone is dead they are dead, the in-law relationship is always tricky. It can go anywhere

    1. Very true.
      Thanks for stopping by my dear friend Benjamin.

  2. Sounds like she was a cool MIL. 🕊️

  3. God rest her sweet soul.

    The outfit looks good on you and your sister AKA Sisi Presh.

    Congratulations on your nomination. More ororo in your frying pan.
    Voting done.
    Please where do I queue to collect my pkali?🙄💁😎

    1. Thank you dear Seme of life!
      Please what is pkali?😀😀😀


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